THE LAMENTATIONS OF AN INCORRIGIBLE IDIOT AS LKG ---------- Forwarded message --------- From: gopala krishnan <[email protected]> Date: Sun, 17 Aug 2025 at 09:36 Subject: Re: [KeralaIyers] Re: thy name is gopalakrishnan To: APS Mani <[email protected]>, Rajaram Krishnamurthy <[email protected] >
*Yes Mr. Rajaram. I am a worm of insignificance, Leave me. You are a big elephant. With in milli seconds you can smash me with your leg. I understand it. Please leave me alone insignificant. Don't make negative comments on me-OK. The king elephant can do that much. * *Mr Rajaram, mind your comment- I am bogus ITS and I was only a supervisor. I will keep it in my mind till my death and I hate you. No cultured IRS officer will make such comment-Your bad nature is known to all. * *On that account you were REMOVED from iyer123 group, after your questioning the authority of the moderator and threatening writing your daughter is working in Google. Are you not ashamed that you were forcibly removed from an iyer group- Genuine IRS officer. * Mr APS Mani, I wrote facts after reading the responses of Mr. Rajaram to Justice TNC Rangarajan and Madras Sivaraman on many occasions. *Facts remain as facts.* Your close associate Mr. Rajaram whom you try to defend and justify today, *will turn against you on one day.* At that time you will write- Yes Gopalakrishnan, You are correct. *That day is not far off .* Except you, no body in the groups has any bad impression on me- I am sorry to state. *Dushtale Kandal doorae Doorae-* I will follow the saying. First Dushtal Mr Rajaram and 2nd yourself. Wishing peace among all members of the Kerala iyers and Patti-Thatha groups, Gopalakrishnan On Sunday 17 August, 2025 at 08:55:20 am IST, APS Mani <[email protected]> wrote: You live a mean life, quoting Madras & Justice to make a quarrel in the group. You are a specialist and a MEAN person. That is your specialty. On Sun, Aug 17, 2025 at 7:23 AM Rajaram Krishnamurthy <[email protected]> wrote: WHO ARE YOU IDIOT GOPALA? ARE YOU MY BOSS OR MY FRIEND OR A WELL WISHER? YOU ARE A ENVY POSSESSED SENILE CLAY HEADED UNWISE ABUSIVE FIT ENOUGH MUNDHIRI KOTTAI PROJECTING YOUR AVIVEKAM AS IF KNOWLEDGE. I NEVER EVEN LOOK AT YOUR STATURE EXCEPT WHEN YOU REACT AS IF SO LEARNED WHO ALWAYS WRITES, --"[YOU NEVER ADMITS.......] AND CALL OTHERS AS LACKING IN VERBATIM ENGLISH. BETTER SCRAP YOUR BACK OR ELSE NEVER EVER YOU WILL IMPROVE SO AS TO BE RECOGNISED. YOU ARE A WORM OF INSIGNIFICANCE WHO CRAWLS BUT ASSUME AS IF FLYING ok? KR 17825 On Sat, 16 Aug 2025 at 19:50, gopala krishnan <[email protected]> wrote: Mr. Rajaram, I do not tuck my tail and runback words. I stop responding to you when your abusing exceeds limits . You never admits your mistakes except to Mr. Madras Sivaraman, former IRS. Even you argue with Justice T N C Rangarajan many times, I have read your responses. You will never improve your nature. Gopalakrishnan On Saturday 16 August, 2025 at 07:36:16 pm IST, Rajaram Krishnamurthy < [email protected]> wrote: The person who ducks while really pouncing for a pound of flesh and seeking some old crabs shows the mean personality of Gopalakrishnan. KR On Sat, 16 Aug 2025, 19:21 gopala krishnan, <[email protected]> wrote: Dear friends, If any two members *other than Mr. APS Mani *agrees to the negative writings on me by Mr. Rajaram , I am ready to accept the negative comments on me and try to improve myself. I feel Mr. Rajaram has to improve a lot other than blaming others and abusing though a former IRS officer. I am sorry to state he is least civilized, when a person comment or correct him, start abusing . Members may please understand. One can read the unwarranted comments wrote about me without any prompting in this posting. One can understand the laggings of language- construction, spelling, presentation etc. etc. If I pointed out these laggings of the former IRS officer, with out admission, he will abuse in very bad words. Mr. Narayanaswamy is not appearing in the forum for the last few months. If he appeared, each and every posting (copy and paste ) must been criticized. Gopalakrishnan R (Former ITS 7024) On Saturday 16 August, 2025 at 03:22:17 pm IST, Rajaram Krishnamurthy < [email protected]> wrote: Welcome On Sat, 16 Aug 2025, 15:04 APS Mani, <[email protected]> wrote: Excellent tributes and advice. Thanks, On Sat, Aug 16, 2025 at 2:53 PM Rajaram Krishnamurthy <[email protected]> wrote: Senility thy name is Gopalakrishnan Just I wrote it and found a joker in the group who is 80 plus and sickly mentally. The Joker has no stuff and leads a falsified life and now somehow wants to project that he is a LEARNED. Nothing wrong if one desires; but merit-lacking desire is dangerous. So many wrote to him; wrote about him; but keeps a few bad ticks under whose warmth assumed a learned pose. But trith is bitter as he is exposed so many times about his contents, subject, plagiarism totality and the fox-traits. But he never changed even at this age. When at 80plus one writes an LKG student what do we name him as(s)? His foul language made all pages in the group stink. Why a senior in age refuse to control himself and behave so stern and senile? WHAT DOES THE PSYCHOLOGY STATE? 1 They’re in pain from various ailments, and this reduces their energy levels and makes them tired and irritable. 2 The world they grew up in and which felt familiar to them has faded, and they dislike or feel no place in a different popular culture. 3 They feel cheated by life, that they worked and sacrificed but did not receive the rewards or comforts they expected. 4 They feel disrespected or unwanted by younger people, and their advice and opinions have been ignored. 5 They were bitter and rude jerks when they were young, and now just have more leisure time to express it. 6 Life Experience: Older adults have lived through many challenges, losses, and disappointments. These experiences can lead to a hardened outlook on life, making them appear bitter or cynical. 7 Health Issues: Physical ailments, chronic pain, or mental health challenges such as depression or anxiety can influence mood and behavior, potentially making someone more irritable or withdrawn. 8 Social Isolation: Many older adults experience loneliness or isolation, especially if they have lost friends or family. This can lead to frustration and bitterness, affecting their interactions with others. 9 Generational Differences: Cultural and societal changes can create a disconnect between older and younger generations. Some older people may feel misunderstood or disrespected by younger individuals, leading to rudeness. 10 Coping Mechanisms: Some individuals may develop defensive behaviors to cope with their vulnerabilities, leading to perceived bitterness or rudeness. How to Deal With Aging Parents’ Difficult Behaviors In some cases, this is the way some seniors have always acted. However, new behaviors and personality changes can also indicate serious developments in an elder’s health, such as progressing dementia, depression or a urinary tract infection (UTI). 10 Elderly Behavior Problems and How to Handle Them We’ve compiled ten “bad” behaviors that older adults commonly exhibit, some of the potential mental and physical causes, and tips for coping with them. Elderly Anger, Hostility and Outbursts Age and illness can intensify longstanding personality traits in some unpleasant ways. For example, an irritable person may frequently become enraged, or an impatient person may become demanding and impossible to please. Unfortunately, an angry elder’s main target is often their primary caregiver. How to Deal With Anger in the Elderly Try to identify the root cause of their anger. The aging process is not easy. It can spark resentment in seniors who are living with chronic pain, losing friends, experiencing memory issues, and all the other undignified things that come with getting older. Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia can also cause these behaviors. With dementia, it is important to remember that the patient doesn’t have full control over their words or actions. As a caregiver, the best thing you can do is not take it personally. Focus on the positive, ignore the negative and take a break from caregiving as often as you can by finding respite care. Get some fresh air, do something you love or call a friend to vent. Elders often reserve their worst behavior for those they are closest to, like family members. In this case, it may be beneficial to hire in-home care or consider adult day care. Mean, angry behaviors might not surface in front of strangers, and you’ll get a much-needed break while others are meeting your loved one’s care needs. How to Deal With an Elder’s Abusive Behavior Try explaining how their behavior makes you feel. However, many caregivers don’t get very far by talking. If the abuse is verbal or emotional, help them realize how much you do for them by stepping back for a while. If your loved one requires supervision and assistance to ensure their safety, then bring in outside help to take over your duties. Removing yourself from the situation may drive home the point that abusive behavior will not be tolerated. Your loved one might come away from the experience with renewed appreciation for what you do. In the meantime, you’ll get some valuable respite. If physical abuse is the issue, then seek professional help. This may consist of a phone call to the police or adult protective services (APS), attending counselling, or permanently handing over your loved one’s care to a court-appointed guardian, professional caregivers or a long-term care facility. Declining senses of sight and smell may be contributing to the problem as well. Our senses dull as we age, so seniors may not detect their own body odor or see how soiled their clothes are. If memory issues are involved, they may lose track of time and not even realize how long it’s been since they last bathed. Lastly, fear and discomfort can play a huge role in their resistance. Many older individuals develop a fear of falling and slipping in the tub, and they are often too embarrassed to ask for help. Coping With Verbally Aggressive Behavior in the Elderly When this behavior is out of character for an elder and gradually gets worse, the start of Alzheimer’s disease or another form of dementia is a likely cause. If the onset is quite sudden, a urinary tract infection is another common culprit. UTIs present very differently in seniors than in younger individuals, and symptoms often include behavioral changes like agitation. But if dementia is not an issue and a senior is just plain crass, how do you deal with swearing and rudeness? You can try to set firm ground rules for them. Make it perfectly clear that you will not tolerate such language, especially in public settings. A little bit of guilt may be effective in getting them to realize that their behavior is unacceptable and offensive to other people. Try something like, “Dad, if Mom were here right now, she would be appalled by your language,” or, “You would never want your grandchildren to hear you speaking like that, would you?” When a swearing tirade sets in, another technique is to use distraction. The outburst may end once they’re focused on something else, especially for dementia patients. Try bringing up happy times from the old days. Elders love to reminisce, and prompting them to change the subject and tap into their long-term memory will likely cause them to forget about whatever it is that set them off in the first place. If none of these suggestions works, your best bet is to learn not to take this behavior personally. When a senior becomes hostile, back off, disappear for a little while and wait for it to blow over. Paranoia, Delusions and Hallucinations Paranoia and hallucinations in the elderly can take many forms. Seniors may make false accusations of theft or abuse, see people and things that aren’t there, or believe someone is trying to harm them. These behaviors can be especially difficult for caregivers to witness and try to remedy. How to Handle Mental Health Issues in the Elderly Hallucinations and delusions in elders are serious warning signs of a physical or mental problem. Keep track of what your loved one is experiencing and when so you can discuss it with their doctor as soon as possible. This behavior could be explained by something as simple as a side effect of a new medication they are taking, dehydration or a UTI. Oftentimes, paranoia and hallucinations are associated with dementia. When this is the case, caregiving experts seem to agree that the best thing to do is go with the flow. Do not try to talk dementia patients out of a delusion. Validation is a good coping technique, because what the elder is seeing, hearing or experiencing is very real to them. Convincing them otherwise is fruitless and may make them more upset. Acknowledge the senior’s concerns and perception of reality in a soothing voice. If they are scared or agitated, redirect them while assuring that they are safe and you will help them through the experience. Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder in Elders You can try to reason with your loved one and even talk about items to throw out or give away. Creating a memory box or an organizational system for keeping “special things” may help tame the chaos. With extreme hoarders, behavioral intervention therapies and family counseling could make a big difference in how you cope. In some cases, you may need help from adult protective services if the senior’s behavior has led to unsafe or unsanitary living conditions. This is unfortunately common with stubborn elders with dementia who cannot or will not address their hoarding problems. Hoarding: A Challenging and Potentially Dangerous Dementia-Related Behavior Refusing to Accept Outside Caregivers It is an important milestone when family caregivers decide to hire in-home care for their loved ones, but this plan is often derailed when seniors refuse to let the new caregivers into their homes. Other elders will welcome home health aides in only long enough to tell them that they are fired! Coping With Elders Refusing Care The presence of an outsider suggests to the elderly that their family can’t (or doesn’t want to) take care of them. It also magnifies the extent of their needs and makes them feel vulnerable. Work to understand your loved one’s reasons for resisting in-home care, which could include fear, embarrassment, resentment or some mix of the three. Talk to them about their feelings and work together to find solutions that everyone can live with. For example, if Mom hates the thought of letting a stranger into her home, arrange for her to meet the professional caregiver at the home care company’s office or at a café for coffee first. The above specimens do exist in our society, so Gopalakrishnan is not an exemption. But his behaviors irritate society and the groups. 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