WHO ARE YOU IDIOT GOPALA? ARE YOU MY BOSS OR MY FRIEND OR A WELL WISHER? YOU ARE A ENVY POSSESSED SENILE CLAY HEADED UNWISE ABUSIVE FIT ENOUGH MUNDHIRI KOTTAI PROJECTING YOUR AVIVEKAM AS IF KNOWLEDGE. I NEVER EVEN LOOK AT YOUR STATURE EXCEPT WHEN YOU REACT AS IF SO LEARNED WHO ALWAYS WRITES, --"[YOU NEVER ADMITS.......] AND CALL OTHERS AS LACKING IN VERBATIM ENGLISH. BETTER SCRAP YOUR BACK OR ELSE NEVER EVER YOU WILL IMPROVE SO AS TO BE RECOGNISED. YOU ARE A WORM OF INSIGNIFICANCE WHO CRAWLS BUT ASSUME AS IF FLYING ok? KR 17825
On Sat, 16 Aug 2025 at 19:50, gopala krishnan <[email protected]> wrote: > Mr. Rajaram, > > I do not tuck my tail and runback words. I stop responding to you when > your abusing exceeds limits . You never admits your mistakes except to Mr. > Madras Sivaraman, former IRS. Even you argue with Justice T N C Rangarajan > many times, I have read your responses. > > You will never improve your nature. > > Gopalakrishnan > > On Saturday 16 August, 2025 at 07:36:16 pm IST, Rajaram Krishnamurthy < > [email protected]> wrote: > > > The person who ducks while really pouncing for a pound of flesh and > seeking some old crabs shows the mean personality of Gopalakrishnan. KR > > On Sat, 16 Aug 2025, 19:21 gopala krishnan, <[email protected]> wrote: > > Dear friends, > > If any two members *other than Mr. APS Mani *agrees to the negative > writings on me by Mr. Rajaram , I am ready to accept the negative > comments on me and try to improve myself. > > I feel Mr. Rajaram has to improve a lot other than blaming others and > abusing though a former IRS officer. I am sorry to state he is least > civilized, when a person comment or correct him, start abusing . Members > may please understand. > > One can read the unwarranted comments wrote about me without any prompting > in this posting. One can understand the laggings of language- > construction, spelling, presentation etc. etc. > > If I pointed out these laggings of the former IRS officer, with out > admission, he will abuse in very bad words. > > > Mr. Narayanaswamy is not appearing in the forum for the last few months. > If he appeared, each and every posting (copy and paste ) must been > criticized. > > Gopalakrishnan R (Former ITS 7024) > > On Saturday 16 August, 2025 at 03:22:17 pm IST, Rajaram Krishnamurthy < > [email protected]> wrote: > > > Welcome > > On Sat, 16 Aug 2025, 15:04 APS Mani, <[email protected]> wrote: > > Excellent tributes and advice. Thanks, > > On Sat, Aug 16, 2025 at 2:53 PM Rajaram Krishnamurthy < > [email protected]> wrote: > > Senility thy name is Gopalakrishnan > > > > Just I wrote it and found a joker in the group who is 80 plus and > sickly mentally. The Joker has no stuff and leads a falsified life and now > somehow wants to project that he is a LEARNED. Nothing wrong if one > desires; but merit-lacking desire is dangerous. So many wrote to him; wrote > about him; but keeps a few bad ticks under whose warmth assumed a learned > pose. But trith is bitter as he is exposed so many times about his > contents, subject, plagiarism totality and the fox-traits. But he never > changed even at this age. When at 80plus one writes an LKG student what do > we name him as(s)? His foul language made all pages in the group stink. Why > a senior in age refuse to control himself and behave so stern and senile? > WHAT DOES THE PSYCHOLOGY STATE? > > 1 They’re in pain from various ailments, and this reduces their > energy levels and makes them tired and irritable. > > 2 The world they grew up in and which felt familiar to them has faded, > and they dislike or feel no place in a different popular culture. > > 3 They feel cheated by life, that they worked and sacrificed but did > not receive the rewards or comforts they expected. > > 4 They feel disrespected or unwanted by younger people, and their > advice and opinions have been ignored. > > 5 They were bitter and rude jerks when they were young, and now just > have more leisure time to express it. > > 6 Life Experience: Older adults have lived through many challenges, > losses, and disappointments. These experiences can lead to a hardened > outlook on life, making them appear bitter or cynical. > > 7 Health Issues: Physical ailments, chronic pain, or mental health > challenges such as depression or anxiety can influence mood and behavior, > potentially making someone more irritable or withdrawn. > > 8 Social Isolation: Many older adults experience loneliness or > isolation, especially if they have lost friends or family. This can lead to > frustration and bitterness, affecting their interactions with others. > > 9 Generational Differences: Cultural and societal changes can create a > disconnect between older and younger generations. Some older people may > feel misunderstood or disrespected by younger individuals, leading to > rudeness. > > 10 Coping Mechanisms: Some individuals may develop defensive behaviors > to cope with their vulnerabilities, leading to perceived bitterness or > rudeness. > > How to Deal With Aging Parents’ Difficult Behaviors > > In some cases, this is the way some seniors have always acted. However, > new behaviors and personality changes can also indicate serious > developments in an elder’s health, such as progressing dementia, depression > or a urinary tract infection (UTI). > > 10 Elderly Behavior Problems and How to Handle Them > > We’ve compiled ten “bad” behaviors that older adults commonly exhibit, > some of the potential mental and physical causes, and tips for coping with > them. > > Elderly Anger, Hostility and Outbursts > > Age and illness can intensify longstanding personality traits in some > unpleasant ways. For example, an irritable person may frequently become > enraged, or an impatient person may become demanding and impossible to > please. Unfortunately, an angry elder’s main target is often their primary > caregiver. > > How to Deal With Anger in the Elderly > > Try to identify the root cause of their anger. The aging process is not > easy. It can spark resentment in seniors who are living with chronic pain, > losing friends, experiencing memory issues, and all the other undignified > things that come with getting older. > > Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia can also cause these > behaviors. With dementia, it is important to remember that the patient > doesn’t have full control over their words or actions. As a caregiver, the > best thing you can do is not take it personally. Focus on the positive, > ignore the negative and take a break from caregiving as often as you can by > finding respite care. Get some fresh air, do something you love or call a > friend to vent. > > Elders often reserve their worst behavior for those they are closest to, > like family members. In this case, it may be beneficial to hire in-home > care or consider adult day care. Mean, angry behaviors might not surface in > front of strangers, and you’ll get a much-needed break while others are > meeting your loved one’s care needs. > > How to Deal With an Elder’s Abusive Behavior > > Try explaining how their behavior makes you feel. However, many caregivers > don’t get very far by talking. If the abuse is verbal or emotional, help > them realize how much you do for them by stepping back for a while. If your > loved one requires supervision and assistance to ensure their safety, then > bring in outside help to take over your duties. Removing yourself from the > situation may drive home the point that abusive behavior will not be > tolerated. Your loved one might come away from the experience with renewed > appreciation for what you do. In the meantime, you’ll get some valuable > respite. > > If physical abuse is the issue, then seek professional help. This may > consist of a phone call to the police or adult protective services (APS), > attending counselling, or permanently handing over your loved one’s care to > a court-appointed guardian, professional caregivers or a long-term care > facility. > > Declining senses of sight and smell may be contributing to the problem as > well. Our senses dull as we age, so seniors may not detect their own body > odor or see how soiled their clothes are. If memory issues are involved, > they may lose track of time and not even realize how long it’s been since > they last bathed. Lastly, fear and discomfort can play a huge role in their > resistance. Many older individuals develop a fear of falling and slipping > in the tub, and they are often too embarrassed to ask for help. > > Coping With Verbally Aggressive Behavior in the Elderly > > When this behavior is out of character for an elder and gradually gets > worse, the start of Alzheimer’s disease or another form of dementia is a > likely cause. If the onset is quite sudden, a urinary tract infection is > another common culprit. UTIs present very differently in seniors than in > younger individuals, and symptoms often include behavioral changes like > agitation. > > But if dementia is not an issue and a senior is just plain crass, how do > you deal with swearing and rudeness? You can try to set firm ground rules > for them. Make it perfectly clear that you will not tolerate such language, > especially in public settings. A little bit of guilt may be effective in > getting them to realize that their behavior is unacceptable and offensive > to other people. Try something like, “Dad, if Mom were here right now, she > would be appalled by your language,” or, “You would never want your > grandchildren to hear you speaking like that, would you?” > > When a swearing tirade sets in, another technique is to use distraction. > The outburst may end once they’re focused on something else, especially for > dementia patients. Try bringing up happy times from the old days. Elders > love to reminisce, and prompting them to change the subject and tap into > their long-term memory will likely cause them to forget about whatever it > is that set them off in the first place. If none of these suggestions > works, your best bet is to learn not to take this behavior personally. When > a senior becomes hostile, back off, disappear for a little while and wait > for it to blow over. > > Paranoia, Delusions and Hallucinations > > Paranoia and hallucinations in the elderly can take many forms. Seniors > may make false accusations of theft or abuse, see people and things that > aren’t there, or believe someone is trying to harm them. These behaviors > can be especially difficult for caregivers to witness and try to remedy. > > > > How to Handle Mental Health Issues in the Elderly > > Hallucinations and delusions in elders are serious warning signs of a > physical or mental problem. Keep track of what your loved one is > experiencing and when so you can discuss it with their doctor as soon as > possible. This behavior could be explained by something as simple as a side > effect of a new medication they are taking, dehydration or a UTI. > > Oftentimes, paranoia and hallucinations are associated with dementia. When > this is the case, caregiving experts seem to agree that the best thing to > do is go with the flow. Do not try to talk dementia patients out of a > delusion. Validation is a good coping technique, because what the elder is > seeing, hearing or experiencing is very real to them. Convincing them > otherwise is fruitless and may make them more upset. Acknowledge the > senior’s concerns and perception of reality in a soothing voice. If they > are scared or agitated, redirect them while assuring that they are safe and > you will help them through the experience. > > Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder in Elders > > You can try to reason with your loved one and even talk about items to > throw out or give away. Creating a memory box or an organizational system > for keeping “special things” may help tame the chaos. With extreme > hoarders, behavioral intervention therapies and family counseling could > make a big difference in how you cope. In some cases, you may need help > from adult protective services if the senior’s behavior has led to unsafe > or unsanitary living conditions. This is unfortunately common with stubborn > elders with dementia who cannot or will not address their hoarding problems. > > Hoarding: A Challenging and Potentially Dangerous Dementia-Related Behavior > > Refusing to Accept Outside Caregivers > > It is an important milestone when family caregivers decide to hire in-home > care for their loved ones, but this plan is often derailed when seniors > refuse to let the new caregivers into their homes. Other elders will > welcome home health aides in only long enough to tell them that they are > fired! > > Coping With Elders Refusing Care > > The presence of an outsider suggests to the elderly that their family > can’t (or doesn’t want to) take care of them. It also magnifies the extent > of their needs and makes them feel vulnerable. Work to understand your > loved one’s reasons for resisting in-home care, which could include fear, > embarrassment, resentment or some mix of the three. Talk to them about > their feelings and work together to find solutions that everyone can live > with. For example, if Mom hates the thought of letting a stranger into her > home, arrange for her to meet the professional caregiver at the home care > company’s office or at a café for coffee first. > > The above specimens do exist in our society, so > Gopalakrishnan is not an exemption. But his behaviors irritate society and > the groups. 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