Welcome On Sat, 16 Aug 2025, 15:04 APS Mani, <[email protected]> wrote:
> Excellent tributes and advice. Thanks, > > On Sat, Aug 16, 2025 at 2:53 PM Rajaram Krishnamurthy < > [email protected]> wrote: > >> Senility thy name is Gopalakrishnan >> >> >> >> Just I wrote it and found a joker in the group who is 80 plus and >> sickly mentally. The Joker has no stuff and leads a falsified life and now >> somehow wants to project that he is a LEARNED. Nothing wrong if one >> desires; but merit-lacking desire is dangerous. So many wrote to him; wrote >> about him; but keeps a few bad ticks under whose warmth assumed a learned >> pose. But trith is bitter as he is exposed so many times about his >> contents, subject, plagiarism totality and the fox-traits. But he never >> changed even at this age. When at 80plus one writes an LKG student what do >> we name him as(s)? His foul language made all pages in the group stink. Why >> a senior in age refuse to control himself and behave so stern and senile? >> WHAT DOES THE PSYCHOLOGY STATE? >> >> 1 They’re in pain from various ailments, and this reduces their >> energy levels and makes them tired and irritable. >> >> 2 The world they grew up in and which felt familiar to them has faded, >> and they dislike or feel no place in a different popular culture. >> >> 3 They feel cheated by life, that they worked and sacrificed but did >> not receive the rewards or comforts they expected. >> >> 4 They feel disrespected or unwanted by younger people, and their >> advice and opinions have been ignored. >> >> 5 They were bitter and rude jerks when they were young, and now just >> have more leisure time to express it. >> >> 6 Life Experience: Older adults have lived through many challenges, >> losses, and disappointments. These experiences can lead to a hardened >> outlook on life, making them appear bitter or cynical. >> >> 7 Health Issues: Physical ailments, chronic pain, or mental health >> challenges such as depression or anxiety can influence mood and behavior, >> potentially making someone more irritable or withdrawn. >> >> 8 Social Isolation: Many older adults experience loneliness or >> isolation, especially if they have lost friends or family. This can lead to >> frustration and bitterness, affecting their interactions with others. >> >> 9 Generational Differences: Cultural and societal changes can create a >> disconnect between older and younger generations. Some older people may >> feel misunderstood or disrespected by younger individuals, leading to >> rudeness. >> >> 10 Coping Mechanisms: Some individuals may develop defensive >> behaviors to cope with their vulnerabilities, leading to perceived >> bitterness or rudeness. >> >> How to Deal With Aging Parents’ Difficult Behaviors >> >> In some cases, this is the way some seniors have always acted. However, >> new behaviors and personality changes can also indicate serious >> developments in an elder’s health, such as progressing dementia, depression >> or a urinary tract infection (UTI). >> >> 10 Elderly Behavior Problems and How to Handle Them >> >> We’ve compiled ten “bad” behaviors that older adults commonly exhibit, >> some of the potential mental and physical causes, and tips for coping with >> them. >> >> Elderly Anger, Hostility and Outbursts >> >> Age and illness can intensify longstanding personality traits in some >> unpleasant ways. For example, an irritable person may frequently become >> enraged, or an impatient person may become demanding and impossible to >> please. Unfortunately, an angry elder’s main target is often their primary >> caregiver. >> >> How to Deal With Anger in the Elderly >> >> Try to identify the root cause of their anger. The aging process is not >> easy. It can spark resentment in seniors who are living with chronic pain, >> losing friends, experiencing memory issues, and all the other undignified >> things that come with getting older. >> >> Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia can also cause these >> behaviors. With dementia, it is important to remember that the patient >> doesn’t have full control over their words or actions. As a caregiver, the >> best thing you can do is not take it personally. Focus on the positive, >> ignore the negative and take a break from caregiving as often as you can by >> finding respite care. Get some fresh air, do something you love or call a >> friend to vent. >> >> Elders often reserve their worst behavior for those they are closest to, >> like family members. In this case, it may be beneficial to hire in-home >> care or consider adult day care. Mean, angry behaviors might not surface in >> front of strangers, and you’ll get a much-needed break while others are >> meeting your loved one’s care needs. >> >> How to Deal With an Elder’s Abusive Behavior >> >> Try explaining how their behavior makes you feel. However, many >> caregivers don’t get very far by talking. If the abuse is verbal or >> emotional, help them realize how much you do for them by stepping back for >> a while. If your loved one requires supervision and assistance to ensure >> their safety, then bring in outside help to take over your duties. Removing >> yourself from the situation may drive home the point that abusive behavior >> will not be tolerated. Your loved one might come away from the experience >> with renewed appreciation for what you do. In the meantime, you’ll get some >> valuable respite. >> >> If physical abuse is the issue, then seek professional help. This may >> consist of a phone call to the police or adult protective services (APS), >> attending counselling, or permanently handing over your loved one’s care to >> a court-appointed guardian, professional caregivers or a long-term care >> facility. >> >> Declining senses of sight and smell may be contributing to the problem as >> well. Our senses dull as we age, so seniors may not detect their own body >> odor or see how soiled their clothes are. If memory issues are involved, >> they may lose track of time and not even realize how long it’s been since >> they last bathed. Lastly, fear and discomfort can play a huge role in their >> resistance. Many older individuals develop a fear of falling and slipping >> in the tub, and they are often too embarrassed to ask for help. >> >> Coping With Verbally Aggressive Behavior in the Elderly >> >> When this behavior is out of character for an elder and gradually gets >> worse, the start of Alzheimer’s disease or another form of dementia is a >> likely cause. If the onset is quite sudden, a urinary tract infection is >> another common culprit. UTIs present very differently in seniors than in >> younger individuals, and symptoms often include behavioral changes like >> agitation. >> >> But if dementia is not an issue and a senior is just plain crass, how do >> you deal with swearing and rudeness? You can try to set firm ground rules >> for them. Make it perfectly clear that you will not tolerate such language, >> especially in public settings. A little bit of guilt may be effective in >> getting them to realize that their behavior is unacceptable and offensive >> to other people. Try something like, “Dad, if Mom were here right now, she >> would be appalled by your language,” or, “You would never want your >> grandchildren to hear you speaking like that, would you?” >> >> When a swearing tirade sets in, another technique is to use distraction. >> The outburst may end once they’re focused on something else, especially for >> dementia patients. Try bringing up happy times from the old days. Elders >> love to reminisce, and prompting them to change the subject and tap into >> their long-term memory will likely cause them to forget about whatever it >> is that set them off in the first place. If none of these suggestions >> works, your best bet is to learn not to take this behavior personally. When >> a senior becomes hostile, back off, disappear for a little while and wait >> for it to blow over. >> >> Paranoia, Delusions and Hallucinations >> >> Paranoia and hallucinations in the elderly can take many forms. Seniors >> may make false accusations of theft or abuse, see people and things that >> aren’t there, or believe someone is trying to harm them. These behaviors >> can be especially difficult for caregivers to witness and try to remedy. >> >> >> >> How to Handle Mental Health Issues in the Elderly >> >> Hallucinations and delusions in elders are serious warning signs of a >> physical or mental problem. Keep track of what your loved one is >> experiencing and when so you can discuss it with their doctor as soon as >> possible. This behavior could be explained by something as simple as a side >> effect of a new medication they are taking, dehydration or a UTI. >> >> Oftentimes, paranoia and hallucinations are associated with dementia. >> When this is the case, caregiving experts seem to agree that the best thing >> to do is go with the flow. Do not try to talk dementia patients out of a >> delusion. Validation is a good coping technique, because what the elder is >> seeing, hearing or experiencing is very real to them. Convincing them >> otherwise is fruitless and may make them more upset. Acknowledge the >> senior’s concerns and perception of reality in a soothing voice. If they >> are scared or agitated, redirect them while assuring that they are safe and >> you will help them through the experience. >> >> Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder in Elders >> >> You can try to reason with your loved one and even talk about items to >> throw out or give away. Creating a memory box or an organizational system >> for keeping “special things” may help tame the chaos. With extreme >> hoarders, behavioral intervention therapies and family counseling could >> make a big difference in how you cope. In some cases, you may need help >> from adult protective services if the senior’s behavior has led to unsafe >> or unsanitary living conditions. This is unfortunately common with stubborn >> elders with dementia who cannot or will not address their hoarding problems. >> >> Hoarding: A Challenging and Potentially Dangerous Dementia-Related >> Behavior >> >> Refusing to Accept Outside Caregivers >> >> It is an important milestone when family caregivers decide to hire >> in-home care for their loved ones, but this plan is often derailed when >> seniors refuse to let the new caregivers into their homes. Other elders >> will welcome home health aides in only long enough to tell them that they >> are fired! >> >> Coping With Elders Refusing Care >> >> The presence of an outsider suggests to the elderly that their family >> can’t (or doesn’t want to) take care of them. It also magnifies the extent >> of their needs and makes them feel vulnerable. Work to understand your >> loved one’s reasons for resisting in-home care, which could include fear, >> embarrassment, resentment or some mix of the three. Talk to them about >> their feelings and work together to find solutions that everyone can live >> with. For example, if Mom hates the thought of letting a stranger into her >> home, arrange for her to meet the professional caregiver at the home care >> company’s office or at a café for coffee first. >> >> The above specimens do exist in our society, so >> Gopalakrishnan is not an exemption. But his behaviors irritate society and >> the groups. He will write a reply like an LKG, but GOK GOD SAVE THE >> GOPALAKRISHNAN >> >> K RAJARAM IRS 16825 >> > -- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "Thatha_Patty" group. To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an email to [email protected]. To view this discussion visit https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/thatha_patty/CAL5XZorUenzwqjwMb%3DTRn6ZOuwh3cqMn5Yj8Nv7R8UC3KN%3DQxQ%40mail.gmail.com.
