Senility thy name is Gopalakrishnan
Just I wrote it and found a joker in the group who is 80 plus and
sickly mentally. The Joker has no stuff and leads a falsified life and now
somehow wants to project that he is a LEARNED. Nothing wrong if one
desires; but merit-lacking desire is dangerous. So many wrote to him; wrote
about him; but keeps a few bad ticks under whose warmth assumed a learned
pose. But trith is bitter as he is exposed so many times about his
contents, subject, plagiarism totality and the fox-traits. But he never
changed even at this age. When at 80plus one writes an LKG student what do
we name him as(s)? His foul language made all pages in the group stink. Why
a senior in age refuse to control himself and behave so stern and senile?
WHAT DOES THE PSYCHOLOGY STATE?
1 They’re in pain from various ailments, and this reduces their
energy levels and makes them tired and irritable.
2 The world they grew up in and which felt familiar to them has faded,
and they dislike or feel no place in a different popular culture.
3 They feel cheated by life, that they worked and sacrificed but did not
receive the rewards or comforts they expected.
4 They feel disrespected or unwanted by younger people, and their advice
and opinions have been ignored.
5 They were bitter and rude jerks when they were young, and now just
have more leisure time to express it.
6 Life Experience: Older adults have lived through many challenges,
losses, and disappointments. These experiences can lead to a hardened
outlook on life, making them appear bitter or cynical.
7 Health Issues: Physical ailments, chronic pain, or mental health
challenges such as depression or anxiety can influence mood and behavior,
potentially making someone more irritable or withdrawn.
8 Social Isolation: Many older adults experience loneliness or
isolation, especially if they have lost friends or family. This can lead to
frustration and bitterness, affecting their interactions with others.
9 Generational Differences: Cultural and societal changes can create a
disconnect between older and younger generations. Some older people may
feel misunderstood or disrespected by younger individuals, leading to
rudeness.
10 Coping Mechanisms: Some individuals may develop defensive behaviors
to cope with their vulnerabilities, leading to perceived bitterness or
rudeness.
How to Deal With Aging Parents’ Difficult Behaviors
In some cases, this is the way some seniors have always acted. However, new
behaviors and personality changes can also indicate serious developments in
an elder’s health, such as progressing dementia, depression or a urinary
tract infection (UTI).
10 Elderly Behavior Problems and How to Handle Them
We’ve compiled ten “bad” behaviors that older adults commonly exhibit, some
of the potential mental and physical causes, and tips for coping with them.
Elderly Anger, Hostility and Outbursts
Age and illness can intensify longstanding personality traits in some
unpleasant ways. For example, an irritable person may frequently become
enraged, or an impatient person may become demanding and impossible to
please. Unfortunately, an angry elder’s main target is often their primary
caregiver.
How to Deal With Anger in the Elderly
Try to identify the root cause of their anger. The aging process is not
easy. It can spark resentment in seniors who are living with chronic pain,
losing friends, experiencing memory issues, and all the other undignified
things that come with getting older.
Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia can also cause these
behaviors. With dementia, it is important to remember that the patient
doesn’t have full control over their words or actions. As a caregiver, the
best thing you can do is not take it personally. Focus on the positive,
ignore the negative and take a break from caregiving as often as you can by
finding respite care. Get some fresh air, do something you love or call a
friend to vent.
Elders often reserve their worst behavior for those they are closest to,
like family members. In this case, it may be beneficial to hire in-home
care or consider adult day care. Mean, angry behaviors might not surface in
front of strangers, and you’ll get a much-needed break while others are
meeting your loved one’s care needs.
How to Deal With an Elder’s Abusive Behavior
Try explaining how their behavior makes you feel. However, many caregivers
don’t get very far by talking. If the abuse is verbal or emotional, help
them realize how much you do for them by stepping back for a while. If your
loved one requires supervision and assistance to ensure their safety, then
bring in outside help to take over your duties. Removing yourself from the
situation may drive home the point that abusive behavior will not be
tolerated. Your loved one might come away from the experience with renewed
appreciation for what you do. In the meantime, you’ll get some valuable
respite.
If physical abuse is the issue, then seek professional help. This may
consist of a phone call to the police or adult protective services (APS),
attending counselling, or permanently handing over your loved one’s care to
a court-appointed guardian, professional caregivers or a long-term care
facility.
Declining senses of sight and smell may be contributing to the problem as
well. Our senses dull as we age, so seniors may not detect their own body
odor or see how soiled their clothes are. If memory issues are involved,
they may lose track of time and not even realize how long it’s been since
they last bathed. Lastly, fear and discomfort can play a huge role in their
resistance. Many older individuals develop a fear of falling and slipping
in the tub, and they are often too embarrassed to ask for help.
Coping With Verbally Aggressive Behavior in the Elderly
When this behavior is out of character for an elder and gradually gets
worse, the start of Alzheimer’s disease or another form of dementia is a
likely cause. If the onset is quite sudden, a urinary tract infection is
another common culprit. UTIs present very differently in seniors than in
younger individuals, and symptoms often include behavioral changes like
agitation.
But if dementia is not an issue and a senior is just plain crass, how do
you deal with swearing and rudeness? You can try to set firm ground rules
for them. Make it perfectly clear that you will not tolerate such language,
especially in public settings. A little bit of guilt may be effective in
getting them to realize that their behavior is unacceptable and offensive
to other people. Try something like, “Dad, if Mom were here right now, she
would be appalled by your language,” or, “You would never want your
grandchildren to hear you speaking like that, would you?”
When a swearing tirade sets in, another technique is to use distraction.
The outburst may end once they’re focused on something else, especially for
dementia patients. Try bringing up happy times from the old days. Elders
love to reminisce, and prompting them to change the subject and tap into
their long-term memory will likely cause them to forget about whatever it
is that set them off in the first place. If none of these suggestions
works, your best bet is to learn not to take this behavior personally. When
a senior becomes hostile, back off, disappear for a little while and wait
for it to blow over.
Paranoia, Delusions and Hallucinations
Paranoia and hallucinations in the elderly can take many forms. Seniors may
make false accusations of theft or abuse, see people and things that aren’t
there, or believe someone is trying to harm them. These behaviors can be
especially difficult for caregivers to witness and try to remedy.
How to Handle Mental Health Issues in the Elderly
Hallucinations and delusions in elders are serious warning signs of a
physical or mental problem. Keep track of what your loved one is
experiencing and when so you can discuss it with their doctor as soon as
possible. This behavior could be explained by something as simple as a side
effect of a new medication they are taking, dehydration or a UTI.
Oftentimes, paranoia and hallucinations are associated with dementia. When
this is the case, caregiving experts seem to agree that the best thing to
do is go with the flow. Do not try to talk dementia patients out of a
delusion. Validation is a good coping technique, because what the elder is
seeing, hearing or experiencing is very real to them. Convincing them
otherwise is fruitless and may make them more upset. Acknowledge the
senior’s concerns and perception of reality in a soothing voice. If they
are scared or agitated, redirect them while assuring that they are safe and
you will help them through the experience.
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder in Elders
You can try to reason with your loved one and even talk about items to
throw out or give away. Creating a memory box or an organizational system
for keeping “special things” may help tame the chaos. With extreme
hoarders, behavioral intervention therapies and family counseling could
make a big difference in how you cope. In some cases, you may need help
from adult protective services if the senior’s behavior has led to unsafe
or unsanitary living conditions. This is unfortunately common with stubborn
elders with dementia who cannot or will not address their hoarding problems.
Hoarding: A Challenging and Potentially Dangerous Dementia-Related Behavior
Refusing to Accept Outside Caregivers
It is an important milestone when family caregivers decide to hire in-home
care for their loved ones, but this plan is often derailed when seniors
refuse to let the new caregivers into their homes. Other elders will
welcome home health aides in only long enough to tell them that they are
fired!
Coping With Elders Refusing Care
The presence of an outsider suggests to the elderly that their family can’t
(or doesn’t want to) take care of them. It also magnifies the extent of
their needs and makes them feel vulnerable. Work to understand your loved
one’s reasons for resisting in-home care, which could include fear,
embarrassment, resentment or some mix of the three. Talk to them about
their feelings and work together to find solutions that everyone can live
with. For example, if Mom hates the thought of letting a stranger into her
home, arrange for her to meet the professional caregiver at the home care
company’s office or at a café for coffee first.
The above specimens do exist in our society, so Gopalakrishnan
is not an exemption. But his behaviors irritate society and the groups. He
will write a reply like an LKG, but GOK GOD SAVE THE GOPALAKRISHNAN
K RAJARAM IRS 16825
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