“Love yourself” is such a powerful concept. When you truly love yourself,
it's not just a feeling, but an action that can create a ripple effect. It
leads to healthier self-esteem, better mental health, and greater
resilience in facing challenges.
The cause is the love you give yourself: the acceptance, compassion, and
understanding. The effect is a positive shift in how you interact with the
world and others. When you love yourself, you're more likely to treat
others with kindness and empathy, leading to stronger relationships and a
more balanced life.
Self-love is something that can look different for everyone, but here are a
few ways to practice it:
Positive Self-Talk: Pay attention to how you speak to yourself. Replace
self-criticism with words of encouragement and kindness. Be your own
biggest supporter.
Set Boundaries: Knowing when to say no or when to protect your time and
energy is a huge part of self-love. It shows respect for your needs and
limits.
Self-Care: Make time for activities that nurture your body and mind,
whether that’s exercise, meditation, reading, or just taking time to relax.
It’s about feeling good in your own skin.
Forgive Yourself: Everyone makes mistakes. Learn from them, but don’t hold
onto guilt or shame. Self-love means giving yourself the grace to move on
and grow.
Celebrate Your Wins: Even small achievements deserve recognition. It builds
your confidence and reinforces your worth.
In psychology, self-love is often referred to as self-compassion or
self-acceptance, and it plays a significant role in overall mental
well-being. It's rooted in the idea that you should treat yourself with the
same care and understanding as you would a close friend. Here’s a deeper
look at how psychology describes it:
Self-Compassion (Kristin Neff’s work): Neff is one of the leading
researchers in this area. She defines self-compassion as treating yourself
with kindness and understanding when you face challenges or make mistakes.
It's not about being perfect, but acknowledging your humanity and
responding to your own struggles with empathy rather than harsh criticism.
Self-Acceptance: This refers to accepting all parts of yourself,
both the strengths and the flaws. Psychologists believe that
self-acceptance is essential for healthy self-esteem and overall
psychological well-being. It’s not about thinking you're perfect, but about
recognizing your worth regardless of your imperfections.
Self-Worth and Esteem: Healthy self-love is often linked to
self-esteem—the way you perceive your own value. Psychologists emphasize
that a healthy self-esteem is based on internal factors, such as personal
values and achievements, rather than external validation.
Growth Mindset: Psychologists like Carol Dweck have suggested
that self-love can help foster a growth mindset—the belief that abilities
and intelligence can be developed through effort. If you love yourself,
you’re more likely to embrace challenges as opportunities for growth rather
than as threats to your self-worth.
Attachment Theory: Research on attachment styles shows that how we
feel about ourselves is influenced by early relationships with caregivers.
Secure attachment (where you feel valued and loved) leads to a healthy
self-concept, whereas insecure attachment can sometimes lead to lower
self-love or feelings of unworthiness.
The Role of Self-Compassion in Mental Health: Studies show that
self-compassion is linked to lower levels of anxiety, depression, and
stress. When you're compassionate toward yourself, you're more resilient in
the face of setbacks, and you don't get stuck in negative cycles of
self-blame or shame.
In short, psychology sees self-love as an important component of
mental health and personal development. It’s about treating yourself
kindly, accepting your imperfections, and nurturing your emotional
well-being.
SELF LOVE ASPECTED BY TIRUMULAR IN TIRU MANTHIRAM:
https://youtu.be/HUbVcKsUIxI When you will love yourself SO THAT
UNKNOWN FACES CANNOT INCREASE THEIR BLOOD PRESSURE BY HATING PERSONS.
The jiva upādi causes souls to exist in three causal states,
the kevala, sakala and suddha, based on their association with senses and
consciousness (v2227).
Tannai aṛi suttan tat kevalan tānum
Pinnam uṛa ninṛa peta sakalanum
Manniya sattusatthu satasatuṭan
Tunnuvar tattam tozhiṛku aļavākave
Souls initially remain in the kevala state. They are unconscious, immersed
in ānava. The suddha kevala or those who remain in the pure kevala state do
not have a body as they are not associated with maya which brings other
concepts that result in a body. When they become conscious due to maya,
karma and products of maya (mayeya) are added to them. The mayeya are the
vidya tattva or principles that grant knowledge. The souls then become
sakala in suddha state who have self-awareness (v2236). Tirumular says that
the kevala remain associated with asat (lack of consciousness), sakala are
associated with sat-asat (conscious sometimes and unconscious otherwise)
and the suddha are associated with sat (fully conscious).
WHY WOULD DO SELF LOVE?
The five siva tattva, siva (apara bindu), sakti (apara nada),
sadasiva, maheswara and suddha vidya emerge from suddha maya. They give
rise to the seven vidya tattva, kalā, kāla, niyati, raga, avidya, purusha
and maya, which are the products of asuddha maya. The twenty four atma
tattva- five karmendriya (senses of action), five jnanendriya (senses of
knowledge), five elements (sky, air, fire, water and earth), five subtle
qualities (sound, touch, form, taste and smell), four modifications of the
mind (mind, intellect, ahamkara and chittham) are products of prakriti
maya. The atma tattva manifests as sixty secondary principles or sārpu
tattuvam or pura karuvigal (external instruments). They are listed below:
>From Earth: hair, bone, skin, nerves, flesh
>From Water: saliva/urine/chile, blood, semen, brain, marrow
Fire: hunger, sleep, sexual desire, fear, laziness
Air: walking, running, standing, sitting and lying
Sky: anger, greed, miserliness, malice and obstinacy
Earth: ten nadi or energy channels idai, pingalai, sulumunai, gandhari,
atthi, asvani, aalam, purusha, sootham, singuvai
Fire and air: five primary vital breaths, prana, apana, udhana, samana,
vyana
All the five elements: the five secondary vital breaths, nagan, koorman,
kirikaran, devadatthan, dhananjayan
Sky: the three attachments (etanai) wealth, world and offspring
Vak or speech- talking, memorizing, singing, weeping and exulting
Prakriti: the three qualities- rajas, tamas and satva
Bindu: four stages of sound, paishanthi, madhyama, vaikari, sukshma
Among the 36 internal instruments, the karmendriya and gyanendriya are
called the pulan or senses. The five subtle qualities and the three
modifications of the mind without the chittham are called puriashtakam or
eight senses. [WHEN PANCHA BHUTA BODY IS LOVED THE INNER SELF IS LOVED; AND
PRAPANCHA PANCHA BHUTAM IS VISIBLE; AND SELF OUTSIDE INTEREST DO ARISE.]
Self-love is the beginning of your confidence leading towards
the glory and sat Sangam, vivekam and turiya Prapti.
K Rajaram IRS 28125
On Tue, 28 Jan 2025 at 04:58, Jambunathan Iyer <[email protected]>
wrote:
> "The only way to do great work and Live Happily is to love Yourself First
> before thinking of Others.
>
>
> N Jambunathan Rengarajapuram-Kodambakkam-Chennai-Mob:9176159004
>
> *" What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you
> become by achieving your goals. If you want to live a happy life, tie it to
> a goal, not to people or things "*
>
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