JCO will stop if no one addresses him. That is the only way the list can "win." I thought that most of the list members had agreed to put a halt to this a few days ago? He'll continue as long as he is addressed. You're not teaching him anything, You're just fueling the fire. Paul On Oct 24, 2006, at 7:51 PM, William Robb wrote:
> > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "ann sanfedele" > Subject: Re: The JCO survey > > > >> >> come on guys - take it off list or lighten up or both >> >> annsan for peace and friendliness > > The guy that built my house is a jco type. He also uses bullying and > abuse to get what he wants. > The problem with letting people get away with this sort of crap is > that > they tend to keep doing it, and become very hair triggered. > It is self reinforcing behaviour > By this, I mean that eventually, as soon as someone crosses them, they > become abusive and bullying, secure in the knowledge that they will > "win", since they always have in the past. > > I see this sort of behaviour in dogs on a regular basis. > The dog that runs it's fence chasing off anyone who walks by is > showing > the same behaviour. > > I expect that jco has used his bullying methods of getting his own way > for a very long time, probably it is something that he learned in > grade > school and has escalated through his entire life, to the point now > that > he jumps down anyone's throat who dares to have a differing > opinion, he > treats any slight as a personal attack, and he escalates anything that > crosses him to the most extreme position he can. > > It's easy to write this sort of psychotic behaviour off as a mental > illness, and I have recieved a few private emails asking me to stop > the > bear baiting. > Bullying and abuse does not classify as a mental illness. > > Bullies know exactly what they are doing, they just have so little > regard for people that they continue doing it. > > Bullies tend to be wife beaters, or animal abusers, they tend to go > looking for fights, but will only pick on those they see as unable to > defend themselves. The more fights they win, the bolder the bullying > becomes. > > Eventually, they see anyone as fair game, they see themselves as a > superior, unassailable being who has the right to do exactly what > he is > doing. > "If I didn't have the right to do it, someone would stop me" is > essentially the mindset that they take. Since everyone backs down, the > behaviour continues unabated, and tends to escalate. > > So, one is faced with a choice: Does one let the bully win, thereby > reinforcing his loutish behaviour, or does one stand up to the > bully and > not let him win, thereby essentially castrating him? > > This is not the first time that jco has teed off on people on this > list. > At one time Rob Studdert and I had a running game about when jco would > get himself wound up again. For a while it was about once every three > weeks, like clockwork. > > Let it go if you like, let the Wookie win, so to speak. > You can be secure in the knowledge that he will continue his abuse, > perhaps not today or tomorrow, but again at some point, and that the > next time he will be even more antisocial > > With dogs, when they get to the point jco is at, the best option is to > put them down. > > William Robb > > > > > > -- > PDML Pentax-Discuss Mail List > [email protected] > http://pdml.net/mailman/listinfo/pdml_pdml.net -- PDML Pentax-Discuss Mail List [email protected] http://pdml.net/mailman/listinfo/pdml_pdml.net
