dpkg-reconfigure grabs the focus when showing dialogs. Well... I think it should be removed from update-manager wishlist, and be post in dpkg-reconfigure wishlit
dpkg-reconfigure could accept a parameter to disable the "focus grab", with a default value to 0, and when update-manager invokes dpkg-reconfigure, it should pass the value 1 to disable the focus grab. I don't know if this feature worths the work, would like to hear from someone. -- Israel VinÃcius Nogueira Miranda