HYPOCRISY 1 Humans tend to judge others by their behavior, but think they have special information about themselves – that they know what they are "really like" inside – and thus effortlessly find ways to explain away selfish acts and maintain the illusion that they are better than others.
2 Hypocrisy is defined as the practice of claiming to have moral standards or views to which one’s own behavior (or the behavior of people in our family or tribe) does not meet. It is a pretense of morality that cloaks our inability to meet some predetermined moral code. We accuse one person of doing exactly what we are doing but believe that it is somehow “different” when that person does it. It is typically caused by an inflated sense of ego and self-righteousness, coupled with an inability to be humble. According to experts, it is a form of projection, which is a common defense mechanism that takes root in adolescence. It is a way to protect ourselves from harm. Its purpose is to avoid personal responsibility and to gain control over a situation without admitting any wrong responsibility. 3 At the root of hypocrisy is fear and low self-esteem. We use hypocrisy to avoid looking at our shortcomings and figure out our part in it. It typically stems from a sincere belief that we should not be held to the same standards as others because we have better intentions. Our belief is juster, nobler, and sincerer. It feels good to be morally superior to someone else. It helps us to avoid humility, which is a very painful emotion. Even the best of us use hypocrisy when we feel attacked. It’s a deflection to avoid dealing with our own problems because we don’t want to be judged. At the root of hypocrisy is a strong desire to be loved and accepted. The fear of humility and judgment is so powerful that we use doublethink and cognitive dissonance to avoid facing ourselves. 4 To stop being a hypocrite, we must first examine our own moral code and determine whether there are any contradictions in it. Objective morality is the best tool to help us overcome hypocrisy. Objective morality is the belief that meaning is not open for interpretation, and that something is true regardless of who is involved in a situation. In other words, stealing is wrong in and of itself. Abuse is wrong in and of itself. Hurting someone’s feelings is wrong in and of itself. We must also stop pretending to be anything other than human. We must admit that we are imperfect beings who are prone to make mistakes. We must learn to laugh at ourselves and look at our own shortcomings less seriously. We must recognize that every one of us is prone to wrongdoing. Think about how much it hurts to be accused of something that you are doing yourself. Putting ourselves in other people’s shoes can also be tremendously helpful in decreasing our inflated ego and self-righteousness’ · Stop condemning others so quickly. · Pinpoint context and how it alters the way that you think/believe · Start paying attention to your cognitive dissonance. Others are likely to forgive you for making a mistake, but they have a harder time forgiving someone who refuses to admit they have made a mistake. Instead of being afraid to show your human side, embrace it. At the root of hypocrisy is a desire to be loved and accepted without judgment. When the hypocrite starts to show humility and become more authentic, he/she will get exactly that. NB No one is a Mahatma; and one cannot escape because of downtrodden conditions, seeking sympathy, having used their tongues lashing on the subjects; and getting back the lashings or remaining silent, may not grant, twisted arms processes. HE REAPS WHAT HE SOWS. K R IRS 9725 On Wed, 9 Jul 2025 at 07:55, 'gopala krishnan' via Thatha_Patty < [email protected]> wrote: > Dear friends, > > Mr Rajaram had forwarded a posting- certain items are excellent medicines. > *Item > 21 was living in harmony is a medicine.* > > I just made a response,* if the forwarder followed it, the groups would > have been different*. > > It is because of the nature of Mr Rajaram.Recently he made a very bad > comment of Mr Narayanaswamy *who does not post anything or criticize his > posting, most probably he might have been bed ridden. Still he made a > comment. * > > Further responses blaming me can be read by members.* Where as he is the > root cause, he find fault with others specially about members like me, who > point out his mistakes. * > > I am sorry to state the long back retired IRS officer, lacks harmony. > Members can decide whether my response was correct or not > Gopalakrishnan > > -- > You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups > "Thatha_Patty" group. > To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an > email to [email protected]. > To view this discussion visit > https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/thatha_patty/728403606.1119703.1752027920087%40mail.yahoo.com > <https://groups.google.com/d/msgid/thatha_patty/728403606.1119703.1752027920087%40mail.yahoo.com?utm_medium=email&utm_source=footer> > . > -- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "Thatha_Patty" group. 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