I was using Linux. I used the Java Service Wrapper and found what I needed!
It provides a way to wrap the start.jar so that it can be started and
stopped using linux daemon, helpful for my case of connecting Solr to a
chef recipe. I may write an explanation of this soon.
Which Operating System? I have a write up for Windows:
http://blog.outerthoughts.com/2013/07/setting-up-apache-solr-on-windows-as-a-service/
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http://search-lucene.com/ and narrow down by mailing lists/keywords.
Regards,
Alex.
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