Debian defaults: Are them a democratic process?

Lately, I've seen how Debian is not following the wishes of many users. I've seen how many distributions like Fedora Core, SUSE, Gentoo, even Debian based ones like Knoppix and Ubuntu are listening their users and having the defaults most users want. Like using the more secure, scalable and easier

SourceForge.net moving to Fedora Core from Debian [SourceForge.net PR-Web Upgrade Notice.]

SourceForge.net is moving to Fedora Core from Debian!!! This is a huge backoff for the Debian community. Please do something to help SourceForge.net not take this step!!! We need to hear why they are moving to Fedora Core and what problems need to be fixed in Debian so they don't take this way. --

downloading selected source packages automatically

I have to compile many packages from source because some of my patches are not applied upstream. So I download the source package (dsc, diff.gz & tar.gz), dpkg-source it, apply my patches, dpkg-buildpackage -rfakeroot, install it and mark it for hold so when upgrading a newer version isn't installe