On Saturday 06 December 2008, Duncan wrote: > Joe Zeff <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> posted > [EMAIL PROTECTED], excerpted below, on Fri, 05 Dec 2008 13:24:58 > > -0800: > >>> [Joe Zeff != Jeff] > > > > On 12/05/2008 CSV4ME2 wrote: > >> I did answer your question, > > > > And I'm not saying that you didn't. However, I fail to understand how > > you could be looking at my name and misspell it that way. At the age of > > 59, I can, quite literally, say that I've found that type of thing > > offensive for over half a century, having gotten tired of it at about > > six or seven. I've also learned that the only way to prevent it > > happening again is to make it *very* *clear* the first time that it is > > unacceptable. > > I don't know... I think I'd /choose/ to find it amusing. This isn't to > denigrate your bone, which is a legitimate one if you wish to make it so, > but at age 42 (not quite up with you, but not a young'un any more, > either), I've discovered that it's much easier to adjust my own attitude > and actions than that of another, and often, if I don't seem to care so > much, it's not a big deal and pretty soon people forget about it > (sometimes by coming up with a new name =:^s) . > > Actually, my first name is John, but there were always so many and all > you here is the ON bit, so it gets mixed up with Donna and the like too. > So I started going with the more unique Duncan, first offline (when I > worked with a Donna, see above), then on, when I name-clashed somewhere > with another John Duncan -- but remarkably I've never name-clashed on or > offline with an active single name "Duncan". > > So people call me John I just ignore it, because generally they're > talking to/about someone else. If asked, I explain it this way, the > double entendre helping to get the point across: "There's always too many > Johns around... unless you need one! So I just go by Duncan and avoid > the confusion." > > Then that gets turned into Dunkey, which quickly becomes Donkey! Or they > call me "Gordo" (Spanish for fat man) due to my size, or Barney (the > purple one) again due to both that and my easy going nature, or Pelone, > Spanish again, due to my often shaved head (and yes, I'm aware of the > urban dictionary meaning too). Whatever. I choose not let it bother me, > and because it doesn't, it's no big deal. Even John doesn't bother me, > tho I'll often ignore it, either because I honestly think they're > referring to someone else or if I have something else I'm doing, because > I can pretend I think they're referring to someone else, since I don't > identify with the name any longer (with the exception of when my folk say > it, of course). I'm sure if I let any of those or some other name bother > me, I'd immediately be branded and stuck with it for life, but honestly, > there's way more important things to worry about, so I just don't let it > bother me and it just doesn't bother me. > > Of course as I said you have a legit complaint if you want to make a big > deal of it, but <shrug>, /why/? Surely you know that by doing so you're > immediately branding yourself as that in some peoples minds? Or is that > the intention? Maybe you actually like it? In any case, aren't there > much more important things to worry about?
Well said, Duncan. My sentiments exactly. Plonked Zeff. C _______________________________________________ Pan-users mailing list Pan-users@nongnu.org http://lists.nongnu.org/mailman/listinfo/pan-users
