customizing xterm?

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hey, can someone tell me how to customize xterm? i want to make it have a transparent background but i dont know how, all the things i have read on it refere to haveing either of 2 files which i dont have, .xdefaults and .xresources are the 2 files they refere to haveing either one. i hope someone can help me with this.