Thanks to everybody who helped. I did install ddt-client and register accounts on both machines, but don't seem to be able to get that working yet. However, both ssh and scp work beautifully between the two machines just using ip addresses. The ppp is probably not static but can be found out easily enough; it appears to be the higher number of the two when you run ifconfig. The other computer is on a cable modem and I am using dhcpcd; I'm not sure that's supposed to be static either, but I haven't known it to change in the four month or so I've had cable. Anyway, both scp and ssh work both ways.
-- Cheryl