On Sat, Aug 10, 2024, 04:09 Martin D Kealey <mar...@kurahaupo.gen.nz> wrote:
> Sorry, that was supposed to be a personal reply off-list. > well dood if u get offended by such , u have no idea about what im getting offended by , .. On Sat, 10 Aug 2024 at 12:01, Martin D Kealey <mar...@kurahaupo.gen.nz> > wrote: > >> On Thu, 8 Aug 2024 at 03:14, alex xmb sw ratchev <fxmb...@gmail.com> >> wrote: >> >>> mr chet >>> >> >> I REALLY get annoyed when strangers call me "Mister Martin" or write "Mr >> Martin". I am NOT a child, so how DARE they mock me like that. >> >> The short version: Some folk don't care, others don't know any better, >> but if you suspect the person you're talking to is over 40, I would >> strongly recommend you avoid this style of address - unless of course you >> WANT to mock them. >> >> The longer version: My family name is "Kealey", and my given name is >> "Martin". Only small children (or adults too young to know better) allow >> themselves to be called by an honorific with their first name, unless the >> two people are very close friends or family. >> >> If you really need to be formal, write "Mr Kealey", but otherwise just >> call me "Martin". (*1) >> >> If anyone tells you that honorific+given name is the preferred polite way >> to talk to older people, tell them you know someone whose native language >> is English who says that what they're saying is "polite" is actually an >> insult to older people, and if they still don't believe you, tell them to >> contact me directly. >> >> -Martin Kealey >> >> *1: if you suspect that the person is over 70, you'd best avoid their >> given name entirely, and stick to honorific+surname. >> >
